Editorial Review
In her most provocative book yet, Dr. Laura urgently reminds women that to take proper care of their husbands is to ensure themselves the happiness and satisfaction they yearn for in marriage.
Women want to be in love, get married, and live happily ever after. Yet disrespect for men and disregard for the value, feelings, and needs of husbands has fast become the standard for male-female relations in America. Those two attitudes clash in unfortunate ways to create struggle and strife in what could be a beautiful relationship.
Countless women call Dr. Laura, unhappy in their marriages and seemingly at a loss to understand the incredible power they have over their men to create the kind of home life they yearn for. Now, in The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura shows you—with real-life examples and real-life solutions—how to wield that power to attain all the sexual pleasure, intimacy, love, joy, and peace you want in your life.
Dr. Laura's simple principles have changed the lives of millions. Now they can change yours.
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Customer Reviews
This book really CAN change your marriage and your life 
2008-05-30
What a wake-up call this book was. Having been raised by and as a feminazi (but having long since come to my senses and recently having discovered Dr. Laura's radio talk show), this book revealed a lot of common-sense truths that almost seemed too easy, too good to be true.
Truths such as, treating your husband nicely will encourage him to treat YOU nicely. Truths such as, being demanding and selfish and insisting on financial and personal independence prevents family stability (which is what we women, and our children, really, truly do want and need).
With sexism against men at an all-time high, especially in the entertainment industry, you might think, when reading this book, that Dr. Laura is out of touch with reality. But nothing could be further from the truth: Her message is one of practicing the Golden Rule, and that the surest way to get over feelings of frustration or selfishness is to give of yourself.
I was a little skeptical about some of the advice in the book, but I tried it and noticed in a change in my own outlook as well as in my hubby's behavior. I felt happier, too, about my role as homemaker and mother.
A book like this, sadly, is least likely to be read by those who need it, but I can tell you with a very clear conscience and with compassion for couples that may be struggling that only good has come from my reading it, and hope you'll give it a chance.
A Better Idea 
2008-05-28
I found this and kept an open mind, but I just couldn't get past the negativity this book was full of. I absolutely agree that women do silly things to their men - nag, complain, whine, withhold affection, and so on. And I agree that women oftentimes would have happier husbands, happier marriages, if we stopped.
However, Dr. Laura seems so hell-bent on showing us how mean, critical, emasculation we women can be that she misses the whole aspect of - "Ok, got it, how do we change?"
Yes, "Stop nagging" is simple advice - and Dr. Laura does say that. But if I'm nagging it's because SOMETHING NEEDS TO GET DONE AND HE AIN'T DOING IT!
Dr. Laura advises we "give it up" more often to our husbands - I agree, having children, a busy home, work puts a huge damper on romance. But that alone doesn't repair the damage done or replace bad habits with good.
I would have appreciated more concrete advice on how to stop doing the nasty things that can break down the marriage by replacing them with POSITIVE action.
I found that in The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide To Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace, which, while absurdly patriarchal at times, did offer solid ways I could improve our marriage. I'm a do'er - what can I *do* to fix things - and "The Surrendered Wife" was a great well of ideas (some of which I laughed at, but many of which I found value in).
By the way, I earn all the income for our family and am a far cry from traditional and/or religious values, but I so still see that men like to be treated like men, my husband included, and I'm willing to use what I can from books like these and leave the rest. My being a little softer, a little kinder and even a little less of a b*Tch, is never a bad thing.
Look no further 2008-05-22
Well, for the last years, men and women have been fed up with looking for this elusive and strange beast called "Happy marriage". There have been people telling they have seen it but, as Bigfoot or the Yeti, these reports come from strange lands or ancient times and most scholars tend to think that this creature is only a figment of our imagination. Sick and tired of trying to chase this mythical beast with no result, people have given up and start settling for substitutes. Men have adopted one-night stands, meaningful affairs and video games. Women have adopted single motherhood, entitlement attitude, male-bashing and shopping. Both sexes have also settled for ersazt marriages (marriage-for-the-kids, open marriages, doormat marriages and other kind of unhappy marriages) which have bring a lot of misery. But all these replacements have not made us forget the mythical beast we long for. Because in the core of the human heart there is a need for a happy long-term connection with another person and nothing can replace that.
Look no further. This book tells you all what you must do in order to have a good marriage. It is not rocket science: in fact, everything that it is explained here is plain common sense. But it is a sign of the decadence of the times that common sense is so extremely uncommon. So this book was badly needed. Of course, this flies in the face of all the BS which media and so-called "pundits" have told us for the last decades (because this is what we wanted to hear). This is not wishful thinking, fairy tales or how things should be. This is how things are and what to do about it. This is the truth, plain and simple, with the good and the bad.
For women: If you want to have a happy marriage, please read this book and practice what is taught there. You will have a great marriage and a husband that gives you a hundred for one. Please read this book without prejudices and with an open mind.
For men: Give this book as a present to your girlfriend and examine her reaction. If she tells you sincerely: "This book is what I have always thought", you probably have a keeper (for marriage). If she tells you sincerely: "I thought otherwise but this book has made me think", you may have a keeper (but you will have to check that). If she tells you "This is book is nonsense. Why isn't there a book called "the proper care and feeding of wifes"? (the book explains why), please leave her PRONTO. Let her live their miserable life as a entitlement princess in an unhappy marriage, as a divorcee who strips her ex from their assets (and don't let him see his children) or as a feminist spinster in a house full of cats. Let her practice the noble art of male-bashing and think that the world is wrong and she is right. But don't let her misery ruin your life.
Top Notch 2008-05-22
Any woman who is having concerns about her relationship should read this book. I guarantee that it will do wonders to open a person's mind to a whole new way of thinking and, in the vast majority of cases, a MUCH happier relationship. This book changed my life and I have recommended it to countless others. Makes a PERFECT gift for a bridal shower or wedding!
An interesting display of wisdom and ignorance 
2008-05-14
This book is bound to both entertain, delight and irritate people of both genders, for very different reasons. It is unlikely that after 40 years of feminist misandry, women are likely to change the habits they've picked up. There's no hope for that lost generation, but today they're reaching retirement age, and now it's the younger generations of women that matter most. What is pleasing is the number of young women I meet who've clearly rejected the attitudes of a generation of women who are now nearing retirement age lonely and single. The problem with books like these though, is that they always present stereotypical men and women who seem about as lifelike as Ken and Barbie.
Besides that, the author obviously felt compelled to offset her unpopular message to women by belittling men at the same time, as if to cheer her female readers up a little. She claims that man is a "very simple creature," who needs only "direct communication, respect, appreciation, food, and good loving'" to respond with devotion, compassion and love. What she means is that, compared with women, men are emotionally uncomplicated. No argument there. But could we call Thomas Edison a very simple creature because his emotional needs were uncomplicated? A very simple creature would have been unable to change the world with his inventive and creative genius, or have an intellect that has doubled the world's population in a few centuries. If that is a simple creature, then what name to give a creature which has shown and shows no creative drive or gift of invention, despite occupying 60% of university study places in the USA? 'Extremely simple'? 'Unbelievably uncreative'? Or 'Just plain stupid?'? In a perfect world, a person making such a claim would be condemned to one month living only on female inventions, although admittedly, that may qualify as a cruel and unusual punishment.
Besides her own prejudices though, this is a book which offers some interesting food for thought. Ultimately, everyone has to work out their own unique relationship though, and should just use this book for tips rather than as some kind of relationship bible. Perhaps the biggest failing of this book and many others like it, is that they lead people to the false conclusion that happiness is to be found through another person. No system of spiritual advancement has ever advocated finding strength and happiness through someone else. It is up to all of us to ensure that we spiritually grow, which is our main purpose as human beings, be that with a partner or not. The western fantasy of romance has caused so much unnecessary misery. It is interesting and revealing to note that women from cultures where romantic relationships are the exception, and marriages are more practical affairs, that these women are made of far stronger emotional material than western women, many of whom remain children inside, looking for a man to replace their parents, or the security of their family homes. Remember to always keep your own spiritual development in mind, that the western concept of romantic love is artificial, not naturally evolved or the only form of relationship, and that a guarantee for eventual unhappiness is to seek strength in another.
Best manual for women who want to understand their men 2008-07-18
I give this book (along with a similar book by another author targeted to men) to young engaged couples (and recommend it widely to others).
A lot of the men read her book. They rave about how well she gets it. She says "men are simple creatures". The men agree (we are simple creatures, truley we are). She explains how to interact successfully with men. The men say she has it exactly right.
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands 2008-07-08
This is an awesome book that strengthened my marriage. As a result, my husband is even more helpful around the house than he used to be. I highly recommend reading it with an open mind. If you are not willing to give 100% to your marriage after reading this, good luck keeping your marriage alive & healthy.
Best handbook for women 2008-06-24
I love this book and bought it for a good friend of mine who is getting married soon. It is one of the best books that can help a woman understand her husband or men in general.
A little too hard core for me 2008-06-14
I truly enjoyed and got a lot out of Dr. Laura's Proper Care And Feeding Of Marriage, however The Proper Care And Feeding Of Husbands is a bit insulting to women. I've actually been the wife who's husband had an affair and I can honestly say, I didn't drive him to it.... What are you thinking Dr. Laura?
Wonderful! 2008-05-31
The title may put people off, but the content of this audiobook/book is excellent and will help couples greatly. I enjoy the audiobook as I can listen in the car and I've listened twice now to the book. It's very informative and practical advice for improving lives. Highly recommended.
