Editorial Review
For millions of men on the path to recovery, Victims No Longer is the next step.
The first book written specifically for men, Victims No Longer examines the changing cultural attitudes toward male survivors of incest and other sexual trauma. Now, in this Second Edition, this invaluable resource continues to offer compassionate and practical advice, supported by personal anecdotes and statements of male survivors. Victims No Longer helps survivors to:
- Identify and validate their childhood experiences
- Explore strategies of survival and healing
- Work through issues such as trust, intimacy, and sexual confusion
- Establish a support network for continued personal recovery
- Make choices that aren't determined by abuse
Psychotherapist Mike Lew has worked with thousands of men and women in their healing from the effects of childhood sexual abuse, rape, physical violence, emotional abuse, and neglect. The development of strategies for recovery from incest and other abuse, particularly for men, has been a major focus of his work as a counselor and group leader.
Thoroughly updated and revised, and including an expanded Resources section, Victims No Longer educates survivors and professionals about the recovery process -- speaking to the pain, needs, fears, and hopes of the adult male survivor.
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Customer Reviews
Very Eye Opening 
2008-01-09
If you or a loved one have been the victim of childhood sexual abuse then this book is an excellent resourcee. It deals primarily with Male Survivors and provides great insight into how coping mechanisms have become a way of life. It allows survivors to carefully examine their feelings and relationship choices in a positive and affirming manner, and begin to make changes to a healty lifestyle. If you have decided to read this book, well done!!! You have taken the first steps to reclaiming your life!
Victims No Longer 
2007-12-14
A thoughtful book re sexual abuse of people who are trying to get past the victim ideology. The writer has had much experience in treating these people and his suggestions are helpful.
Victims No Longer 2007-09-29
This is an excellent, straight-forward, sensitive book that deals with a topic that is difficult. It is written so that it can be easily understood and is incredibly helpful to victims as well as therapists who treat them. The author validates the victim's world and encourages the victim to get help and talks about the many males who have survived and are healing.
Long-But has good info/advice 2007-08-25
As a spouse of a survivor, I read this book which also offered advice to partners and spouses. This book gave way too many examples and other info for the first 4 chapters. Most of us already have an idea of what sexual abuse against boys can entail, there were just way too many stories of survivors that were disturbing and difficult to read. It did however give important insight and ways to get help and help yourself but it came along with a lot of unneeded information. If you have the time and patience it is a good tool towards recovery.
Awesome read 2007-08-24
I gave this wonderful book to my husband who is in recovery from childhood sexual abuse by his father. He cried and read , cried and read from start to finish. The book is empowering, healing and filled with truth that heals. I recommend it as an essential read for those in recovery and for those who love them. Kate
Victims No Longer 2007-01-23
For millions of men on the path to recovery, Victims No Longer is the next step.
The first book written specifically for men, Victims No Longer examines the changing cultural attitudes toward male survivors of incest and other sexual trauma. Now, in this Second Edition, this invaluable resource continues to offer compassionate and practical advice, supported by personal anecdotes and statements of male survivors. Victims No Longer helps survivors to:
- Identify and validate their childhood experiences
- Explore strategies of survival and healing
- Work through issues such as trust, intimacy, and sexual confusion
- Establish a support network for continued personal recovery
- Make choices that aren't determined by abuse
Psychotherapist Mike Lew has worked with thousands of men and women in their healing from the effects of childhood sexual abuse, rape, physical violence, emotional abuse, and neglect. The development of strategies for recovery from incest and other abuse, particularly for men, has been a major focus of his work as a counselor and group leader.
Thoroughly updated and revised, and including an expanded Resources section, Victims No Longer educates survivors and professionals about the recovery process -- speaking to the pain, needs, fears, and hopes of the adult male survivor.
Absolutely Recommended 2006-03-10
This book is a great resource for clinicians, survivors, and anyone who knows a survivor.
Still classic and gay affirmative 2005-03-07
This book is one of the first books I read which includes examples of gay men sexually abused as children without including homosexuality as the result of sexual abuse. If you are a gay man and are looking for an affirmative book on sexual abuse which does not pathologize your gay identity, look no further. Lew has written it and you have found it!
It continues to be an excellent book for working with all men--gay, bi and straight alike.
Joe Kort
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The best book for Survivors. 2005-02-03
My copy of Mike Lew's book is well worn, most pages have sections underlined and notes written down the margins.
A lot of pages are stained with coffee, red wine and tears.
It's a book I still read a lot, five years after I first got it.
I am a Survivor of sexual abuse, and have recovered my life through therapy, and some hard personal work. But the personal work was so much easier with this remarkable book.
Mike Lew's understanding of 'our' problems is second to none and he expresses himself very clearly throughout the book. Don't think that this is just a book for professionals, it isn't. This is a book for everyone concerned with men who have been sexually abused.
I now work with other Survivors, and I always recommend this book to them, which is why I'm here at Amazon again; buying yet another copy so someone else can benefit.
Dave Lloyd
Comprehensive, real, and compassionate 2004-12-17
VICTIMS NO LONGER helped me to begin to learn that I had dignity, humanity, and value. Lew is a tough read no doubt! Sexually abused as a 12 year old, emotionally abused as a child and then sexually harassed by a male manager in my workplace, finding children chat bookmarks on my workstation browswer, I was fired by a major english medical school in E. Canada just broaching the subject to my psychiatrist, a work staff psychiatrist.
After avoidance, humiliation and dehumanizing insults from most GP's some clergy, psychiatrists and even a Liberal politician (Canada)and some family I was on the precipice of a premature judgement. I was on my way out and abandoned save my faith, a group of compassionate men and women survivors I found after five years of despondant blind searching, and then....Mike Lew. For the Christian male adult survivor of childhood sexual abuse, mind who your first Love is, then read Lew accordingly.
'Victims No Longer' gently touches and affirms the reality and palpability of your pain (exacerbated by institutionalized social avoidance,) your abandonment, hopelesness all with compassion and dignity. You can begin to learn to stand up and count yourself one of the few unindoctrinated by status quo cowardice and fear, and a member of the rare courageous living. Not just meaningless academic apriori fishing, but human, ethical which meets you at your level. A Must Read!
