Crazy Time. Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life, Revised Edition

Customer Reviews

Helpful.

2008-09-02
Crazy Time clearly was a ground breaking book, and one of the first to confront the new era of the "easy and common" divorce of the eighties to now.

I was able to find bits and pieces of my situation in this book. I appreciate Ms. Trafford's very direct and open discussion of emotions, guilt, sex, and several other topics.

A couple of things to keep in mind about this book - everyone cheats in it. Also, it is completely secular and does not look at marriage as a sacred vow or bond.

Hey, I guess that makes it a better fit for today and the era of Sex and the City anyway.

I did not find much hope in the message of Crazy Time. I fear the "dancing ghosts" and "deadlock" that are emphasized throughout the book.

I think that Ms. Trafford recognized this, and you will note a slightly more optimistic outlook in the Epilogue... But it still feels as if it was added last minute.

But I must rate it fairly high because it does a nice job of frankly discussing so many of the issues behind divorce today.

A very helpful book

2008-08-28
I read many books when I was struggling through my divorce, but this is the only one that I have recommended to anyone else. I found it so dead on in describing what it feels like to go through a divorce and so helpful in validating my experiences that I have given or recommended it to many of my friends in their divorces. I particularly found the concept of "the end of love and the persistence of attachment" helpful -- the idea that you may have come to hate the person you're divorcing, yet find yourself having a hard time getting away from the habit of attachment to them. This book helped me make sense out of many situations that would otherwise have made me question my sanity. I highly recommend this book!!!

Disappointing

2008-07-26
This book could have been a "how to..." article; "how to stop feeling guilty if I cheated and abandoned my family" for example.
However, if you are the one cheated to, and left behind, this book is not so helpful. It is borderline insulting.
Here is the plot - in every relationship there is one dominate (aggressive, suffocating, bitchy), and one submissive (suffocated, controlled) person. The submissive one is fed up and has an affair, then leaves the marriage. The dominate one is in denial and acts out in anger (sometimes even killing the poor submissive spouse). Then they both go through a range of emotions for different reasons, while everybody has a lot of sex.
Sorry if I spoiled it for you.
I could honestly say this is the most boring book I have ever read. There was no need for writing a story after a story, saying exactly the same thing for 250 pages.

Crazy Time

2008-07-21
An excellent emotional guide for anyone going through divorce/separation. It's best to start reading as soon as things start to unravel. The book gives you clear insight to all the emotions you will go through and all the pitfalls to avoid.

I could have written it

2008-07-15
I was really disappointed in this book because it said things I already knew, and in a very dry way. I didn't even finish the book. I'd recommend It's Called a Break-up Because it's Broken by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendtinstead. You can be strengthened AND laugh at the same time!

A must read for all divorcing people!!!

2008-06-10
A fully revised and updated edition of the essential guide for men and women moving through the turmoil of divorce.

Very helpful

2007-10-24
This book was very helpful to me. It helped to realize that I am not alone and helps to deal with the steps of the divorce process.

Great Insight

2007-08-23
I am going through my first divorce and this book has really explained well how I got there in the first place. There are many stories that relate to different kind of situations. It is an easy read and would be helpful for people who would like to know why they are feeling the way that they feel. I highly recommend it.

great book for anyone getting divorced

2007-03-08
This book helps reassure you that there is a happy life possible after a divorce and that the mood swings and crazy feelings are normal. I have given this book to several of my friends, as well as using it myself.

Ending the Roller Coaster Ride

2007-02-13
Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life has just the right tone to help someone stop playing the blame game and start healing. This book is an excellent tool for understanding the anguished feelings that arise when going through a divorce. I recommend adding this volume to the repertoire of anyone dealing with the traumatic divorce or separation situation.