Joint Custody with a Jerk. Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex, A Hands on, practical guide to coping with custody issues that arise with an uncooperative ex spouse

Customer Reviews

The title states it all

2008-02-29
This book is right to the point of usuing certain ways of dealing with this issue. If you can't put their way of dealing with it to fit your situation, it is useless.

Who are they kidding?

2007-06-01
This book is completely full of 'case studies', yet the biggest flaw is that they wrote it with such political correctness as to alienate the very person who is buying the book, mainly, the women! Almost every story is about some woman being the 'jerk' and some poor helpless guy getting taken advantage of! Give me a brake!

mixed bag

2007-03-08
Most of the comments made are based on large assumptions about the dynamics of the relationships. I don't think it takes into account when you have an ex who isn't willing to work anything out. For such a circumstance I don't think this book really helps at all except understand your own feelings. I think I have a pretty good handle on my feelings and don't need any book to tell me how I feel or to help analyze myself for that matter. This book might help in trying to figure the ex out but in my opinion I think those are assumptions and opions as well and not neccessarily fact. If the author put in advice about legal options it might prove to be more useful.

A divorce recovery must have!

2007-01-09
This book really helped to comfort me and to put things into perspective. I could hardly put this book down.I highly recommend it if you are in any stage of divorce. I wish I would have read it before my attorneys used my emotionally difficult divorce to suck thousands of wasted dollars out of me.

How To Inflame The Situation. Should be the title of this book.

2006-09-07
One parenting acting like a jerk is bad enough. Advising the other parent to act like a jerk is not going to help the children.
Be as kind to yourself, your children and your X as you can. Don't behave like a jerk or make things harder for any reason.
Not recommended.

DON'T BOTHER

2008-07-14
This book is terrible. They bend so far over backwards not to insult men that they insult women. It tells you basically, yes he is a jerk but YOU must bend over backwards to accomodate his jerkiness. It adds to the current family court system that says that you can do whatever you want and the person pooped on must be the one to give in to the selfish one, the one who is morally wrong. That is right. We live in the west. Morals are relative.

Don't buy this book unless you want more frustration.

Could have been better

2008-04-29
They attempted to put a positive spin on the book by being cute. It did not work. It starts in the right direction but sometimes becomes more game playing. Take the good parts and ignore the rest.

My children are better off because I read this book

2008-04-29
This book will help you learn to deal effectively with difficult spouses or any other antagonistic people in your life.

If you are going through a divorce, I highly recomend this book

I always felt she was the jerk.

2008-04-25
Once I saw this book at my x-wife's apartment it became clear she was working a new program. I bought and read it and understood what she was trying to accomplish. What I found amusing was that, I always felt she was the jerk. It would have been easier on both of us if she had just been straight with me. This book would be valid if both parents had a copy. So it should only be sold in sets so both parents are headed in the same direction. Aggravating information on lying, blocking and refusing to be flexible should be removed from the text. A professional mediator could correct the problems with this book and make it really helpful. For now, it does not rate much consideration. Not recommended.

Flash In The Pan

2008-04-05
Each piece of advice worked the first time. I think it was because I was breaking the old patterns when I responded and she was caught off guard. By the next time we communicated she had a new way to shut me down. I stuck to the plan for a month, then gave it up. I would have needed to go to counseling after every confrontation. She has the ability to mutate faster than a super virus. I was amused but not helped by Joint Custody With a Jerk.