The Attachment Parenting Book . A Commonsense Guide to Understanding and Nurturing Your Baby

Customer Reviews

A new mother's review

2008-04-05
As a first-time mother, I wanted to do everything in my power to ensure that my (now almost 7-month old) son felt loved, safe and secure. We still co-sleep, I breastfeed on demand, and, at the urging of Dr. Sears and Martha Sears, I initially wore him in a sling as much as possible, which was basically all day. I don't think Dr. Sears realizes how thinly some eager new moms are willing to spread themselves in order to "do what is best for the baby". After about a month of this, I was ready to pass out. I would strongly urge mothers to first evaluate their circumstances, and decide what their personal limit is, because the more you wear the baby, the more abnormal it becomes for him to lie in the bassinet, the bouncy seat, or anywhere else. Babies are smart, and the more you wear them, the more they resist being put down. For me, it had gotten to the point that I couldn't even shower, because they baby would cry the minute I put him down. My husband works long and variable hours, and we have no family in town, so I had no relief. Very gradually, I began putting him down little by little, and eventually he started to enjoy playing independently in his bouncer, and now in his Baby Einstein activity center. Please, don't make my mistake. Wear your baby in moderation. If you don't, you will exhaust yourself, your marriage will suffer, and the baby will be very anxious unless he is held.

A must for your baby library

2008-03-26
The Dr. Sears books have been a staple for parents for years.
I am a new mom and must admit that these books have actually comforted me with such great and basic advice.

Great book

2008-03-18
I happen to love this book although I think it is so sad that it ever had to be written at all. My husband is luckily from another culture and if it had not been for his support I would have probably have listened to my parents, doctors, and the majority of mothers that I have met and done to whole cry it out, making my infant adhere to a strict, un-flexible schedule, and not holding thing. My husband's culture is non-violent compared to our culture. Murders in the his country of origin our seldom heard of and rare. The mothers and fathers in his country value family and children instead of money and material things as in our culture and get this the parents when they are older are taken care of their children. These same children love and respect them for who they are not what they buy them. Here in the US a lot of kids don't respect their parents and only care about getting the latest video game, etc. His culture is warm and nuturing torward children and although the culture as a whole practices "attachment parenting" it is just a normal occurence for them and it isn't in books and labeled there. I have no idea why books like this have to even be written when people should just know to treat infants and children kindly, but unfortunately since most of us in America have been raised in this manner and all the other parenting books I have purchased besides this one all talk about baby training and letting infants self sooth, etc. I guess that is why bad habits continue on with the next generations. Mothers and fathers should love and nurture their children, hold them, and not allow them to self sooth like parents in many other (non-violent) cultures, and William Sears and his wife should not have to put a label on what is basic parenting that should come natural to every single parent in our country. Open your minds and please read this book and take something from it. Please educate yourselves and make our culture non-violent for our children.

The Attachment Parenting Book - Nuture your bubba

2008-02-25
This book was not all I hoped it would be, I also ordered the Baby Book by the same author and I find that one to be a better book. There was some good information in this book, but it is more of a second or third book to read on attachment parenting as it is a bit full on.

Validation for me and my baby

2008-02-22
As stated in the beginning of the book. This is not a new invention. Many parents already do many of the behaviors talked about in this book. Dr Sears validated the decisions my husband and I make as parents. It is great to read a parenting book that approaches nurturing the way we do. I would recommend this book to all new parents and parents to be simply because it is a positive approach to parenting. I read it again and again to feel the warm pat on the back that these authors convey in their writing. When you think you are doing everything wrong they remind you that you are just fine.

Be Careful and Don't forget Dad

2008-01-18
Is it OK to sleep with your newborn baby? How old is too old for breastfeeding? These questions and more are answered in this latest addition to the Sears Parenting Library. Attachment Parenting encourages early, strong, and sustained attention to the new baby's needs and this book outlines the steps that will create the most lasting bonds between parents and their children. Practical and inspirational, this book, the heart of the Sears' parenting creed, is a necessity for every new parents' bookshelf.

Best Advice for a Mother

2007-12-18
I absolutely love the concepts in this book.. I became a Mother for the first time this past September.. and I was so lost as to what to do with my son and how to raise him well. After reading this book, I had a fresh and new perspective and now I don't feel like I am making any mistakes in catering to his every demand. Back in the 70's, the common theory of parents was to let babies "cry it out" and to "train" them.. so this was the type of advice I was getting from many family members. I think that the popular theory today is practicing AP.. and I feel so good doing it! My son is 3.5 months old and he is such a good baby.. and I think it has to do with his confidence in me always responding and being there for him. A very good book and highly recommended. I recommend all of his books.

Brought my confidence back as a new mom

2007-12-07
This book reaffirmed what I was doing intuitively as a parent of a high-need baby. I was getting alot of raised eyebrows and unsolicited opinions on my parenting. I was beginning to question if what I was doing was right. This book brought back my confidence as a new mom and I now have a very happy, content baby.

The Sears' Family are geniuses

2007-09-04
Absolutely LOVED this book! What a great way to raise your child and feel like a great parent too! Every new parent needs to read this incredible book the Sears. I've continued to add every new book they come out with to our library!

Don't misinterpret the meaning of attachment parenting...

2007-06-18
I have noticed by reading a few of the negative reviews for this book people are misinterpreting "ap" as letting your child "rule the roost" and have no boundaries. That is absolutely untrue! The premise of attachment parenting is to follow those instincts that are innate to every parent! I did not, by any means, rub my choices in anyone's face, but because I did practice AP I received a lot of flack from strangers, family members, coworkers etc. It's like the concept intimidated them! My children have strict rules and guidelines and are extremely respectful. They also share better than most children their age and I am a firm believer it is because of the way they are raised. Through attachment parenting we have provided a POSITIVE, well structured environment where both children and parents live in harmony. We don't have to get stressed out as parents screaming and yelling, or setting rigid guidelines because of the mutual respect we share for one another. This book is worth the reading. If not for anything simply "step outside" of our box here in North America and look at how other cultures raise their children...to most of them attachment parenting is a familiar concept.