I Hate You, Don't Leave Me. Understanding the Borderline Personality

Editorial Review

"AM I LOSING MY MIND?"

People with Borderline Personality Disorderexperience such violent and frightening mood swingsthat they often fear for their sanity. They can beeuphoric one moment, despairing and depressed thenext. There are an estimated 10 million sufferersof BPD living in America today -- each displayingremarkably similar symptoms:

a shaky sense of identity
sudden violent outbursts
oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection
brief, turbulent love affairs
frequent periods of intense depression
eating disorders, drug abuse, and other
self-destructive tendencies
an irrational fear of abandonment and an
inability to be alone

For years BPD was difficult to describe, diagnose, andtreat. But now, for the first time, Dr. Jerold J. Kreismanand health writer Hal Straus offer much-neededprofessional advice, helping victims and their familiesto understand and cope with this troubling,shockingly widespread affliction.

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Customer Reviews

Swings from simple to understand to technical and tough terrain

2008-02-20
This book is well written and informative, but also very tough at times to get though technical language. I did learn a lot about a loved one by reading it, but it took commitment to get through. :)

The Self Esteem Workbook

2008-01-01
This book was a wonderful resource for me as a crisis counselor. My clients found many of the exercises to be therapeutic.

Cover 2 Cover!

2007-12-28
Living with a wife who has this issue has been very difficult. We've been married for 24 years. We have four beautiful children...so it is possible. This book helped explain the issues and gave me some new ideas for responding to the next crisis.

Very depressing

2007-10-16
This book resonated so strongly and was the most informative of any I have read (and ive read them all), but it lacked all hope. You really have to personally have experienced all the situations described to understand how words like "manipulative" and the characterization of bp in general would impact someone struggling so hard to make sense of irrational behaviors that in fact do seem to conform to such motives. I felt so demeaned and hopeless, completely objectified. It was overwhelming.

Chapter 1

2007-09-26
I don't know if this book will be any help to you but it was NOT to me...

My wife only read the 1st chapter, "I HATE YOU..." and then she stopped...

I think she found her answer :)

finally understand what is borderline

2008-07-01
through examples of real people, the author explains the different aspects of this disorder. if you want to read about borderline personality disorder start here.

Poorly written

2008-05-26
It seems as though the editor spell-checked this but that was all. Here are some examples of the poor writing:

He feel (sic) compelled to self punish

The borderline may often by (sic) the victim of recurrent quasi-accidents

The doctors could not nothing (sic) to help Margaret

Give me a break. Some interesting information, but I could not wait to be done with this book.

Very Informative

2008-04-26
This book is very interesting but informative at the same time. Sometimes these disorders are hard to relate to but this author gives a name and a face to BPD. Overall a great book.

Cannot get this book off my Amazon home page

2008-03-06
I found this book full of despair and hopelessness. I bought it b/c my daughter's mother-in-law has this disorder. It is a misery living near her. She has just about destroyed their 10 year marriage and even the 4 yr old will say things to her grandma "Do you have ANY idea what you are talking about?" This book made us realize there is NOTHING that can be done to stop this woman from pushing and pulling at the same time. We are educated about anxiety, bipolar and depression and have witnessed remarkable control of symptoms. This book offered NOTHING.
AND FOR THREE YEARS IT POPS UP ON MY HOME PAGE FROM AMAZON --ALWAYS -- ALTHOUGH I HAVE BOUGHT HUNDREDS OF OTHER BOOKS AND NEVER WANT TO SEE THIS AGAIN. I have "deleted" it from my browsing reviews three times but it never, ever leaves. There is no way to contact Amazon and I honestly do not think I can tolerate being reminded of this book on a daily basis.

Struggled to finish.....

2008-02-28
This book did not hold my attention--my mind would wander. Put it aside several times but I finished with a struggle.