Customer Reviews
I'm glad this wasn't the first book I read on grief 
2008-08-12
I had trouble getting in to this book. It wasn't very easy to read and didn't do me much good. I was luck to have read other books that helped me before I opened this one.
Helpful and comforting 
2008-07-20
I lost my husband suddenly due to a drunk driver shortly after we were married (I was 22). It was my first close experience with death - he died before my grandparents, or anyone else close to me, and I was completely overwhelmed to say the least.
This book was given to me by a friend of the family and it really was a lifesaver. It was comforting to read something that focused on feelings, emotions, and expectations without being fluffy or sappy.
This book is so well written and offers healing words and advice that have stayed with me for years. As another reviewer mentioned, I give this book as a sympathy gift instead of flowers or another card.
Understanding Grief, your own and others' 2007-10-29
This book was, for me, invaluable. It helped to understand the intense turmoil (physical, pschological, familial, social) that the death of a loved one can unleash. I first read it when my beloved grandmother died sooner than expected, and I was in a whirlwind of grief from it. It was an essential resource for me, then, when my father died suddenly, just weeks after my grandfather did, who had had a long-term illness. Part of what I found so incredible about this book, is that it humanizes this experience that feels so intense: it does an excellent job of talking through different waves of grief -- which is not just progressive, alas -- and the different kinds of death of a loved one, which may generate responses in very different inflections, and times.
It really is a companion as well as a resource, helping to understand one's own experiences, and other people's. In that it offers advice and solace, for sometimes the trauma of grief can wreak crisis across families, and communities, as folks experience parallel but very distinctive losses, depending on who they are, culturally and individually. She does an excellent job of helping folks feel less isolated, and scared, by helping to understand grief in context, and as a profoundly human experience.
This is one of the few books I have shared with others often---for I feel it can make an incredible positive difference to a person's life. It did in mine.
Maya Roth
How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies 2007-05-13
My favorite choice of books on dealing with the death of a loved one. Educates you on things to expect from grief, suggestions to make it through, and then ways to reinvest in life without your loved one.
Understand your grief. 2006-11-09
After learning of this book through the Boulder,CO hospice organization, I have recommended it to three close friends. They all gave it in turn to other family members. Explanations of the grief process reassure the reader that they need not worry if they do not 'grieve' in the same way
others do. Much wisdom to be found here.
How to go on living when someone you love dies 2006-03-10
Mourning the death of a loved one is a process all of us will go through at one time or another. But wherever the death is sudden or anticipated, few of us are prepared for it or for the grief it brings. There is no right or wrong way to grieve; each person's response to loss will be different. Now, in this compassionate, comprehensive guide, Therese A. Rando, Ph.D., bereavement specialist and author of
Loss And Anticipatory Grief, leads you gently through the painful but necessary process of grieving and helps you find the best way for yourself.
Whether the death was sudden of expected, from accident, illness, suicide, homicide, or natural causes, Dr. Rando will help you learn to:
Understand and resolve your grief.
Talk to children about death.
Resolve unfinished business.
Take care of yourself.
Accept the help and support of others.
Get through holidays and other difficult times of the year.
Plan funerals and personal bereavement rituals.
How To Go On Living With Someone You Love Dies also includes a comprehensive resource listing and a chapter on finding professional help and support groups.
There is no way around the pain of loss, but there is a way through it. Dr. Rando offers the solace, comfort, and guidance to help you accept your loss and move into your new life without forgetting your treasured past.
How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies 
2005-09-21
I found the book to be very helpful to me in coping with the sudden loss of my Father. It helped me to confirm that I was not losing my mind.
How to go on Living when someone dies 
2005-09-15
Fresh in my grief, I found this a hard book to read. It has a lot of text book information and probably is very helpful later in grief. But, it reads like a text book and I found it hard to process when my grief was so fresh.
Extremely comforting and helpful 2005-09-07
I read this book shortly after the death of my husband, who was also my best friend, my lover, my confidante and my soulmate. Nothing can ease the pain of losing him, but this book helped me understand that what I was feeling was okay...and to be expected. I would recommend this to anyone who is grieving for the loss of a loved one, since it has specific chapters for different losses, i.e., spouse, sibling, parent, etc. I have returned to various sections of this book as I pass through the many stages of grief and always found it helpful.
A "Must Read" for Anyone who is Grieving the Loss of a Loved One 2005-08-09
When my mother died seven years ago, I was searching for solace anywhere I could find it. I ordered this book and can honestly say that it tremendously helped me through the grief process.
The book is both informative and comforting, written in easy-to-read language, not laden with "psycho-babble" and does not pander to the emotions as some grief recovery books do.
In my work with clients who have lost loved ones, I often suggest reading this book as one step in the process of coping with bereavement.
As a side-note: after I read this book, I sent an E-mail to Dr. Rando, telling her how much I enjoyed her book and how valuable it had been to me during my own recovery process. She sent a very gracious reply to me, thanking me for my kind word and assuring me that I would surely find my way through the grief.
