Keeping The Love You Find. A Guide for Singles

Customer Reviews

Excellent

2008-09-21
As a psychotherapy training supervisor, I highly recommend this book for singles, couples and those professionals open to a different slant on relationships.

Keeping the love that you find.

2008-09-19
I read this book and didn't really like a lot of the sections in it. Everybody is different though. It wasn't of value to me, but it could help you.

Great Self Help Book

2008-07-12
This is a great self-help book. If you complete the exercises you will learn a lot about yourself.

Another excellent self help book

2007-08-09
This is another excellent book by Harville Hendrix in which you can learn a lot about what makes you do the things you do in a relationship, and why others do what they do. I found both this book and Hendrix's Guide for Couples extremely enlightening and I've read a lot of self-help books! (The Guide for Couples is fine for Singles, by the way)

Powerful self help book

2007-06-28
If you are really committed to personal growth and to not repeating the same old mistakes in your next relationship, then this is the book. it is not an easy read. I was recommended this book by my therapist and it's the most intense self help book I have ever worked through (and I have been doing this for some time).
Doing the exercises in the book has helped me to bring all kinds of thoughts and habits that I wasn't aware of into consciousness where I stand a chance of healing them and doing things differently in the future. The process has been painful and uncomfortable at times and I had to take breaks and come back to it, but it has accelerated my personal growth dramatically. Really worth it.

dry and unapplicable

2007-04-10
A guide to holding onto love shows readers how to meet the challenges of a new relationship, avoid making the same mistakes, deal with emotional issues, and improve their odds. Reprint.

4 years of practicing what I learned - amazing results!!!

2007-03-30
I read this book 4 years ago when my marriage of 11 years ended. My goal was to understand what happened in my relationship and make sure I didn't make the same mistake again. This was one of about 20 books I read and literally the only one that I still practice what I learned everyday. I would love to boil it down to the key elements, but I strongly recommend taking this book to heart and going through the entire process. Also, it is important to be honest with yourself when Hendrix asks the tough questions. I also advise keeping this book and the notes you will write in a private place. If you're honest with yourself, you will be looking at yourself from the outside in. You will be completed and "whole" yourself and ready to be in a relationship. I also recommend that when you do find that next person, to encourage them to read this book, if not, at least employ some of key tactics, which you will pick up through reading the book. This is truly one of those books that has had a dramatically positive affect on my life.

Very good info but no Christian advice/values

2006-08-24
The book has a lot of good information and insight, but lacks severly in Christian values, I suppose since the other is not a Christian this should not have surprised me. I am not overly conservative but still found some of the info way too far to the left. All in all the basics are good and helpful, as long as you can remember to hold to your personal principles.

The best single's book out there!

2006-06-20
If you are into self-improvement and healing, this book is for you. I've read tons of single's books the past few years, but this is the one that I keep on coming back to. The childhood assessment resonates with me - it made things clear why I fall in love or gravitate towards people with certain personalities. I've been utilizing Hendrix's concept of putting a moratorium on my singlehood, while using utilitarian dating. Amazingly, I've learned a lot about myself, and also about other people. I particularly love the detailed strategies on how to mirror, show empathy and validate your potential partner's perspective. Very helpful. This book is very good for repeated reading. I highly recommend this to the GLBT community as well as Hendrix asserts that his Imago concept trancends gender differences. I attended a seminar by a gay therapist and this was one of the books he recommended to prepare one's self with dating and relationships - I couldn't agree with him more. I've also started reading "Getting the Love you Want" and can't wait to finish it!

Such a great read!

2006-06-14
Going through a divorce, fired from a job where I was top producer, drug through litigation and dealing with a drinking problem was enough to send me into serious overhaul of my life. Not only did I read this book a couple of times, I have several notebooks with all my exercises that I did from the workbook/study guide. And yes...I still go back and read the book every couple of months. When you are ready for improvements in your relationships - get this book!!!