Mom's House, Dad's House. Making Two Homes for Your Child

Customer Reviews

Mom's House, Dad's House

2007-01-05
I tell everyone of my client's to get this book and follow the advice of Dr. Ricci to establish a co-parenting relationship after the divorce.

Excellent resource for some, maybe not for others

2006-09-18
When my wife told me she wanted a divorce, I almost immediately grabbed every book I could find on resurrecting a marriage and handling a breakup with kids. I had plenty of time to read suddenly, after all. I found this book to be not only the most effective in handling kidds, but probably contained the best advice on keeping the marriage together. Alas, it was not meant to be.

A key thing: my children's mother and I have always wanted to be civil with one another. I recognize that many relationships do not end this way, and many parents are abusive or neglectful. There are other books that are better for handling those types of situations. For example, "Where's Daddy?" by Jill Curtis is likely to be helpful for a mother dealing with an absent or abusive father; for me it was not very helpful.

This book can be key in helping a couple that doesn't want their divorce to turn so sour that they can't stand each other's sight. It is helpful in handling each parent's relationship with their children, and their relationship with each other.

If you are already hunkered down in the middle of a war, this book may not be right for you; if you are trying to avoid getting into that situation in the first place, this book should be at the top of your list.

Susan Ashley, Ph.D. Author of The ADD and ADHD Answer Book

2005-10-13
This is my first choice for book recommendations in my practice for divorcing families. It is a blueprint for how to raise a well adjusted child in two homes. If divorced parents only followed the advice in this book divorce would not be so tragic for children. This book advocates putting the child first and tells parent how to behave civilly and work co-operatively with the other parent for the sake of the child, telling parents what to do and what to say that keeps your child out of the middle of the anger between former spouses. This book is for every divorcing family regardless of your unique circumstances.

An essential book

2005-09-17
This book breaks down the basics for families living under two roofs. It simplifies a very complicated, emotional process with rational, logical solutions. It is a must for any parents who share custody of their children. It will keep your decision-making based on what's best for the children and not about parental conflicts. A must-read for all shared custody families.

Every parent should read

2004-06-26
This is an excellent book that every parent should read. The book teaches you that divorce is like death and there are steps which must be taken in order to get through the process properly. I even gave a copy to my husband's ex-wife for Christmas.

Great book

2008-06-03
Still reading this, but so far is a good book. Very imfomative and got it so fast after ordering!

Mom's HOuse Dad's house

2008-06-02
Thank you for getting the book to me in a timely manner and good condition.

SAVE YOURSELF SOME GRIEF AND GET THIS BOOK

2007-10-25
Start the divorce off right if that is possible. Especially when comes to the kids. As a man who has custody of OUR child I respect and appreciate this books insights. You see that this is the norm for different situations so one can watch for it and react appropriately. If you cant be friend's then you as matter as well be "corporate friends" and try to make things work for your kids sake. You would'nt be rude or demeaning to another co-worker so dont treat your ex-spouse that way either. Good luck!

Unnecessary for divorced parents who already get along

2007-05-30
My five-year-old daughter's dad and I have joint custody and joint placement. Therefore, my daughter travels between our houses (about 8 blocks apart) every few days. I was hoping this book would help her dad and I make the most of our daughter's situation, but it seems to focus on parents who do not get along. Perhaps, because my daughter does not remember ever having two parents in the same home, this book isn't as relevant to her as it may be for some. The book seemed to focus on picking up the pieces, rather than just growing as a nontraditional family. I will say one positive thing: the book stresses avoiding the use of "ex husband" and "ex wife" and replacing with "my daughter's dad". I feel that makes for a better situation.

Seems biased toward the mother

2007-05-06
I realize that I have only read a couple chapters so far, but I see an extreme bias that paints the father as the parent that only gets visitation rights and has no interest in his children. This is just my opinion, but every story in the beginning of the book came across this way to me.

Hopefully further reading will offer some advice to something similar to my situation - a father that has custody of his daughters after his ex decided that she was gay after a happy 14 year marriage and asked for a divorce. Times have changed, it isn't always the mother that has primary custody anymore.