How Long Does It Hurt. A Guide to Recovering from Incest and Sexual Abuse for Teenagers, Their Friends, and Their Families

Customer Reviews

Excellent - one of the best!

2006-09-15
Great book, I've read a lot of books on this topic and especially ones targeted towards young adults. This is another book that I highly recommend because: it's easy to read, it practically speaks to you and you can finish it within afew hours, it's style is appealling to teenagers and young adults.
Also it's directed towards girls and boys, it's style should also interest guys to read it and benefit.
Another good book I recommend for girls is "invisible girls" by Dr. Patti Feuereisen.

I wish I had had access to this book

2006-02-05
This is a book which is going to help so many people deal with issues and put them to one side before reaching adult hood and meeting a partner. I believe it is a soul saver
thank you for writing this
Lynn Grocott
author of Cut the Strings the true story of a soul reclaimed

The best book out there!

2005-09-24
I am a therapist with a private clinical practice, working primarily with adolescents and women of all ages who are survivors of some form of trauma, including sexual abuse and incest. I have to say, that this is the book I use most, with all ages, including women who are uncovering and dealing with painful abuse memories. Over and over I hear clients proclaim that the book and quotes from other survivors help them not feel so alone and to also understand better what happened to them and to know there is hope. Also, the way in which the author discloses her own incest history and recovery is refreshing and hopeful and establishes a climate of credibility and trust. In my 20 years of clinical practice and training, I have aquired and read $1000's of dollars worth of trauma books and materials and this book sits as one of the top and most frequently used resources. Also, there is a children's book called "BRAVE BART" which has been a wonderful resource for adult survivors as well as children and adolescent survivors.
D.
(Licensed Clinical Social Worker/Licensed Alcohol and Drug Abuse Counselor)

deserves more than 5 stars

2005-04-25
this is the best reference book for teens facing sexual abuse that i have found, and i have found several. it is also very, very helpful for a parent/parents.

first real healing experience

2002-12-16
This book is great. I started reading books on the subject of sexual abuse when I was 15 (when I told) and am now 19. I have read all of the popular book out there on this subject (paticularly The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass) and have found others helpful, but none of them have ever compared to How Long Does it Hurt. It helped me a lot to realize that what happened to me was horrific and was really abuse and that it was okay for me to feel the things that I did. I'd recommend this book to any and every survivor out there. Teenager or not. It very well could be a lifesaver.

How long does it Hurt?

2002-03-11
How Long Does It Hurt? is the revised and updated edition of the best-selling book written by an incest survivor for future survivors. This step-by-step guide speaks directly to victims of sexual abuse¾to help them come to grips with what is happening to them and overcome their feelings of isolation, confusion, and self-doubt.

Wonderful 2002-01-10
I am a child abuse investigator and I am constantly seeking new information and also resources to share with clients and co-workers. This book is great for teenagers to read as well as their parents. It has given me more tools to use and reminded me of factors related to sexual abuse that help kids to recover. I recommend that parents of child who are abused or even adults with past issues read this book. I bought three of them! Bonnie Sorlie

This Book is Truly a Life-Saver 2001-12-13
I bought this book two years ago at age 18. It has become a type of bible for me. It answered all the questions that were swarming around in my head and let me know I wasn't alone. I've highlighted passages to discuss with my therapist or my family and I re-read it regularly. I recommend it to anyone who has has or knows someone who has been abused.

A must read book before extended family conversations begin! 1999-10-31
This book explains all aspects of what incest is and what incest is not. It answers all the questions your extended family will ask, the way they will respond to the news, and what to do about it. I feel it is very important to have all family members read this book before you talk to them about the incest. It will answer many of their questions before they need to be asked. This will reduce the amount of stupid talk and unnessesary pain, guilt and anger that is associated with the victim after they hear of the stupid talk uninformed people make. If one of the worst nightmare's possible has happened to one of your children then please get this book, read it, pass it on to your family members before you talk to them about it and save your child from being victimized any more.

This is a very understandable book. 1999-07-20
This book is a very understandable book for all ages, especially adults who are recovering their memories. This book is meant for young adults and it is highly appreciated, for there are not many books out for teens and young adults. I like this book because it is meant for guys and gals, one isn't singled out. This book helps to explains things for other family members and friends to understand what their dear person is dealing with. I have recommended this book for others and I hope they get really important facts out of it too.