Should I Stay Or Go? . How Controlled Separation CS Can Save Your Marriage

Customer Reviews

Show I Stay or Go?

2007-07-05
This book offered me and my spouse more help than several counseling sessions with a "professional" marriage counselor. It was very readable and understandable.

This book was exactly what I was looking for!!!!!!

2007-07-03
For anyone considering or alreadt going through a separation, this book is for you! Excellent wording and understanding... the book was written as though I was the author. Awesome book.

Very helpful resource guide

2007-05-16
This book was recommended to me by my therapist and it completely helped me make a decision about my current relationship. I highly recommend this book to anyone in ambivalence about their relationship, whether married or dating. It is a great book!

Should I stay or go

2007-05-15
Excellent source of information. easy to read and follow. well worth the money.

Worth a try

2007-03-29
After several attempts at trying to repair my marriage on my own, this book was highly recommended by my therapist. I reluctantly agreed to read it thinking it would be like all the others I had read before that didnt seem to help. After reading the book, I decided to approach my husband with the idea of the controlled separation (CS). Much to my surprise, he agreed to sit down and discuss it (even though he won't take the time to read it). So far, we have come up with our own CS contract and although it isn't perfect we are working on the marriage. The CS has helped us to diffuse our anger and work on something together without all the fighting and hostility that was interjected into all our conversations.
The one thing I wish the book would have offered is more of a detail outline on how to implement the CS. I was also surprised at the author's advice over certain issues in the CS, such as dating others. For those whose marriages have been threatened by infidelity, this area could be especially painful.
My recommendation is to read the book and then work with your therapist/counselor to help with the areas that you and your spouse may not agree on. Even if my marriage does not work out, at least I will be better prepared for a divorce, having completed the CS first.

Excellent resource for Navigating Seperation/Divorce

2008-04-28
I found this book to be an excellent resource for dealing with my own personal seperation. It gives excellent advice that has already help settle down all the turbulent emotions and is allowing for calmer minds on both sides. Very well written, easy to follow and very real world advice.

wonderful book...priorities enphasized

2008-04-19
Thid wonderful book helps one recognize and intergrate emotional, intellectual and financial consideraions and to rationally consider options.

calculated decision

2008-01-03
In the heat of a break up, this book gives practical advice on how to discern what is the best route to take. It was recommended on a chat sight for divorcing couples and I would highly recommend it to people who are still within a disfunctional relationship.

Great starting point for discussions and decisions

2007-11-23
I really liked the book. It was easy to read and had a lot of useful information. I liked the different relationship examples. Although not one of them were exactly us...there were a few similarities in many of the relationships we could relate to. We did use the contract format, made our own revisions and agreements (although we decided we didn't need a formal signed agreement, we at least covered the points we needed and included a small blurb about the finances as well).
A great way to help make decisions in a rational way!

Should I Stay or Go?

2007-10-13
Excellent book and innovative concept. Very good case studies; one or two that will likely apply to the reader's own situation. The title misleads just a bit in that I thought the book was going to help me then-and-there as to whether I should stay or go. It deals more with the task of separating and the rules that go along with it, so that you CAN decide whether to stay or go. I found that this book was excellent as a second-read, behind "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay." Would absolutely recommend both books for that delicate situation of being in a shaky, unresolved marriage.