Customer Reviews
Umm...that book 
2008-11-25
Read twice...Excellent book. You learn how to stop "double binders" in there tracks, GOD willing. Learn how to reintroduce a "one sided" conversation without coming out "victimized". Incredible book. Peace
The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-way relationship in work, love, and family 2008-11-24
The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family ASIN:0972072837
The author begins with a wonderful introduction explaining a narcissist and where the termilogoy originated. A wonderful comparison with the story of Dorothy and The Wizard of Oz. This book is well written in a style which is easy to understand.
Enlightening 2008-11-16
I highly recommend this book to anyone searching to understand the narcissistic relationship they may be in. I have been at a loss to understand my own and how I could have fallen into this type of relationship. I think this book was written about our marriage! Now, after gaining insight into the narcissistic / co-dependent narcissist relationship, I understand totally how we "clicked" in the beginning and how after a few years he became dominating and I became the doormat. Now, armed with this information, my husband and I are on a wonderful journey together to separately heal each of our hearts from the past so that we may come back together in a healed, strong, equal and respectful marriage. I pray this is a journey many of you out there experience as well. God bless.
Best book ever on psychopaths/narcissists 2008-10-30
Having escaped a marriage with a narcissist/psychopath, I've read a number of books on the subject. This book wins hands down. I gave it to my friend, and she swears it taught her how to deal with her difficult boss.
To be carried everywhere and browsed on need 
2008-10-24
This book is exactly the survival kit for victims of narcissists that I have been loking for. Enlightened, clear, simple, straight to the point.
(I would have appreciated a few words on what kind of personality disorder individuals may end up caught up in the narcissist's net, and more practical tricks on how to deal with them from the specific point of view of the ones who get most easily hurt: bordeline and dependent.)
(Also lacking, the whole sexual sphere: where does NPD cross sexual perversions, where it only appears to do, where it does not, and how to manage all that in relationships. A major theme in love, after all.
Great resource for dealing with people in an increasingly self-centered society 2008-10-09
Every day headlines are filled with examples of narcissistic individuals in positions of power who are nothing more than impostors plundering and wrecking havoc on the lives of others. From the financial barons of Wall Street to our elected officials in government, we are confronted daily with narcissists and the self-serving systems that enable them. Helping people reclaim their lives from this sinister exploitative force is the mission behind Payson's book, The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family. Using simple metaphors from the American classic, The Wizard of Oz, Payson illustrates how Dorothy's journey captures all the seductive illusions and challenges that occur when we encounter the narcissist. Empowering the reader with the ABCs of unhealthy narcissism and the unique problems that occur when a person becomes involved with the narcissist, Payson gives step-by-step practical tools to identify, protect, and heal from these destructive relationships. Largely un-addressed in the psychology and self-help literature, this ground breaking book offers hope and help to those who have been drawn into these devastating relationships. She includes illuminating case studies that identify the problems that occur in the different types of relationships, from co-workers, to friends, to parents, to lovers. Readers employing these insights and skills will find new abilities to identify and protect against the narcissist's manipulations and take back control of their lives.
A Must Read for All People! 2008-10-03
This is the best self-help book I've read in a decade, and I've read hundreds. It's clear, insightful and most of all VALIDATING for anyone who's been in an abusive relationship with someone who has NPD. We don't know we are being abused, so we blame ourselves, doubt ourselves, and ultimately sacrifice our being- Ms. Payson sheds light on the dynamic not just in personal relationships- but in family, work, and friendships. As a result of this book, it inspired me to create an anchored, authentic and whole relationship with myself first, so I can have the same in relationships. Don't buy one copy, buy 10 and give them out as gifts.
A very good book! 2008-09-06
This is a great book about a subject that it seems is not addressed much. I found it hard to read becuase of my own pain but I am glad that I found it and am trying to work my way through it. At first I did not get the Wizard of Oz connection because that is not the sort of movie I paid any attention to but now I do get it. You can check my reviews for another title on this subject that was a total waste of money for me.
Excellent Book! 2008-08-28
I read a couple of books years ago that were very helpful about Narcissism, but I had let myself forget what I had learned. Finding myself dealing with a very self-centered co-worker, I decided to see what books had been written about dealing with a Narcissist in the workplace. This book was very interesting, so much so, I passed it on to my son who had recently told me about some problems he was having with someone. My local bookstore, however, told me the book was "out of print". Fortunately, I was able to get it quickly from Amazon. I wish more was available to help people cope with Narcissistic people in their lives--it is epidemic! Thanks to the author and to Amazon!
Hidden Gem 2008-08-27
This may be one of the most important books that you will ever read about relationships. Contrary to common belief, narcissism is about self-absorption, not self love. Most of us are self-absorbed. In fact, self-absorption is ingrained in American culture.
Recognizing narcissism is a great step toward being able to deal with others. You may even find that you are a narcissist. There two main types of narcissism. And they feed off of each other in an endless, unhealthy dynamic. Both are very needy, rooted in poor self-esteem. In fact, narcissism is almost the opposite of self-love: self-hate.
Reading this book is like getting special glasses for social interactions. Totally fascinating. And useful.
