Customer Reviews
Great Book!! 
2008-08-31
This book was great. It not only helped me with my feelings but it also gave me great perspective. Thanks a lot!
Devastating Infidelity 2008-05-17
My husband had an affair with a married woman while I was pregnant with his twins. I'm not sure it gets worse that that. This book has really helped me understand the process of healing after infidelity through the eyes of a woman that was strong then devastated and has been there. When I am struggling with the pain I think of this book and I know its OK it will pass.
If your husband isn't having an affair it's still a very good book 2008-05-02
I saw Anne Bercht on Oprah. I thought the programme was extremely helpful so I bought the book. The show pointed out that a lot of affairs happen when a marriage seems extremely healthy. This was a big surprize to me.
Generally Anne and Brian had a very good marriage and nice children, you wouldn't have thought that anything would have damaged their marriage. But it happened to them.
The book was extremely gripping because you had the idea that everything would blow over and get sorted quickly, but it didn't, and a lot of drama happened before Brian decided his marriage was worth saving.
This was another surprize that a father could abandon his children and set up with a woman he didn't know that well, and incur huge expenses and pain, when there weren't any major problems like alcohol, drugs, violence or gambling, disability, with his wife or children.
It also showed the horrendous effect Brian's actions had on the entire family. Just when you thought it was unbearable, it became more unbearable.
Sharing the pain 2008-02-14
No person who has not experienced a partner's unfaithfulness, can begin to understand the incredible pain, humiliation and loss of dignity this brings about. Even the person causing the pain cannot truly understand what his or her actions caused, until he/she reads "My husband's Affair became the best thing that ever happened to me". It is only through reading both Anne and Brian's account of their feelings and emotions that one can learn that each of us, no matter how different, will experience similar emotional pain and often react very similar under these circumstances. The persons causing the pain often have similar reasons for doing what they did.
This book is a must for everyone who goes through such a horrible experience. It helps one to know that our reactions are quite normal and not as the "guilty" party often tends to think, abnormal or over the top. Pain is pain and healing takes time. There is a lot to learn about oneself and one's partner in this book. Read it, ask your partner to read it and find a good councilor to talk to. You too can save your relationship.
Hats off to two courageous people who shared their pain with the rest of the world!
A little too religious 
2007-11-20
I bought this book because I was searching for some hope that people make it through affairs.
If you can make it through the first two thirds of the book the ending is actually not too bad. The first two thirds are heavy with religion. Anne does not eat for the first two weeks after she finds out about her husbands affair as she is 'fasting' for religious reasons.
I think she was developing an eating disorder. How ridiculous to not eat for two weeks. It is dangerous and irresponsible for someone with children to take care of.
If you are into God you might find this book readable. If you are not I would give it a miss.
If you are looking to repair a relationship after an affair I would recommend - Infidelity: A Survival Guide by Don-David Lusterman & NOT "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley Glass. Both of these books talk you through the steps required to move on and understand why affairs happen.
Very helpful book 
2007-08-23
The groundbreaking book on recovering from infidelity and surviving marital affairs...and coming out stronger and more in love than ever. Courageous, bold, honest.
Brian (husband): After nearly two decades of marriage to a sexy, loving woman - with whom I made love almost every night - I came home from work one evening and told her I was moving out, leaving her for another woman. Lucky for me, my wife refused to give up on our marriage. We are now closer and more committed than ever. What you're probably wondering is, if I loved my wife so much, why did I do it? In this book, I have answered that question.
Danielle (teenage daughter): When my father told me he was leaving my mother for another woman, I felt it was me he was abandoning. I wondered "what has my whole life been so far, a joke?" In this book, I share the truth about my feelings
Anne (wife): My Husband's affair became the best thing that ever happened to me, yes eventually, but it was also the most devastating of my life. There was a time when I wondered if I could even live through it.
What people are saying..."Riveting...Mesmerizing...I couldn't put the book down."
"My Husband's Affair" deliberately removes itself from providing "the theoretical and psychological" explanations for the why of infidelity and instead purposes to take readers on a gut-honest, courageous, straight-from-the-heart journey into the lives of a couple/family who endured the aftermath of an affair. A must-read before couples, facing infidelity, make life decisions they may later regret. This book provides an alternative to the expected... hope that it's not over.
Don Huston, BTh, MC, RCC, Couples Therapist
This book makes a wonderful contribution to the growing willingness of couples to "break the code of silence" and share their experience with affairs in order to help others. It offers clear insight into the pain involved as well as great hope for the power to recover and rebuild the marriage.
Peggy Vaughan, author of "The Monogamy Myth" and Host of www.dearpeggy.com
For too long too many have suffered in silence because of the stigma associated with affairs. This book gives an honest look at the reality of betrayal and offers hope through the testimony of one brave couple.
Margie Thaler - A Reader
What a ride! Anne captures her marital journey in a way that leaves you feeling as if you've just completed a double loop on a roller coaster...only to realize there's another one coming! After reading their story, I see Anne and Brian as champions of honesty, commitment, perseverance....and true love.
Monica Columbus - A Reader
My marriage can survive and I can heal 2007-06-30
This book is the best purchase I have made since finding out my husband was having an affair. I have read many books about affairs and healing from an affair, but this book is by far the best one. It really hit home and offered me hope and strength when I thought I had none left. My husband and I are trying to repair our marriage and I am working on forgiving and letting go of the pain and devastation I felt for many months and still face, but this book provided me with the hope that I can forgive and our marriage can be whole again. I recommend this book to anyone that is trying to put the pieces back together and find happiness again with their spouse.
My Husband's Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me 2007-01-03
Excellent book. I would highly recommend it to couples who are experiencing marital difficulties involving extramarital affairs and
also for those who are support persons for a couple in trouble.
Anne does an good job of explaining what was helpful and what was
detrimental from their support system. She also was very open about
how difficult it was to recover from her husband's betrayal and all
the work involved between them to rebuild their marriage.
A "Friend" 2006-12-28
This book is amazing, I don't normally give books 5 stars but, this book I am. I received this book 2 days after it was shipped and I read the entire book from front to back in less than 3 days. It was so good, I could not put it down.
If you need books on healing, tips, advice, or just good reading on this subject I highly rec. this book. I found this book to be my "friend" during the time I read it. Anne goes into detail every experience, every emotion, every thought. Although, I wish Brian would have added more to his stories he still shared a lot in this book about his side.
There is one issue though, in this book that I do not agree with. When Anne finally realizes her faults she compares them to be equally as bad as what Brian had done. Not true, her faults were nothing even remotely close to the pain Brian had caused her. Yes, it's great that she finally realized her faults and began working on them but, no, they are not equal to his affair at all.
Best Book on this life changing subject. 2006-11-10
I have read several books on this saddening subject and this book is by far the best. It was realistic and was not engulfed in medical terminology. Great book for the every day person going through a difficult time in their marriage.
