Parenting by the Book. Biblical Wisdom for Raising Your Child

Customer Reviews

Enjoy your family!

2008-10-10
John Rosemond's sensible and solid advice frees families to enjoy each other instead of fighting and refighting the same discipline battles. If you are experiencing crisis conditions in your home you may want to read his The New Six-Point Plan for Raising Happy, Healthy Children or Making the "Terrible" Twos Terrific first. All of his books emphasize practical methods for raising secure, confident, responsible kids.

common sense

2008-10-08
John Rosemond writes with what was once called "common sense", a now all too uncommon trait of modern psychology. Well written, wise, biblical, practical information on training happy, healthy children to become happy, healthy adults.

Got wife and I on the same page

2008-08-03
We know we can't look to Maury, Oprah, Montell or Dr. Phil for reliable advice. We can only look to God. We know many families that raise their children this way and many that don't. It isn't hard to see the difference. We are going to raise ours "By The Book" and pray many others do as well.

A wonderful read for ALL parents! No spanking encouraged!

2008-07-24
This is an absolutely wonderful book that produced results in my home within 2 days! The other reviewers expressed that Dr. Rosemond is advocating spanking and child abuse! He clearly states that "I am not advocating spanking" so I do not know what book these folks read but it wasnt this one. I find that I constantly refer to the term "Post Modern Psychobabble" on a weekly basis. I actually starting reading this book a few weeks before my 6 year old sons teacher expressed her in "professional" opinion that my son was ADHD! My husband and I were blown away by this because she had only known him for 2 months and only had 14 students in her class. 5 of the students were "diagnosed" by her as ADHD. When we told her that she was wrong and that she needed to get a hold of her classroom and show authority when dealing with my child she agreed to try. By the end of the school year, she came to me and apologized and said that after we pointed out to her that he was trying to push her buttons and only needed her to act in an authoritave way with him that she saw nothing but wonderful behavior from him. You see, he has never been a behaviorial problem for any other teacher nor for us at home because we apply the principles of respect for God, Family and community. The funny thing is that one of the reasons she based her "diagnosis" was the fact the at Art time he became disruptive because he does not like art (none of us in the family are artistic), however, I told her that with his love of reading she should give him a book on Van Gogh or something of the sort. She followed suit and realized that he has a great ammount of art appreciation. You see, we as a society have decided that the over stressed teachers must be right and a majority of us tend to run out and put our children on some sort of medication for fear of what people will think of us and our children. I write this review specifically for those parents who question those who suggest your child has ADD or ADHD. I am not saying there are children who dont need meds, but if you are in the slightest of doubt, please purchase and read this book and give it a few months of its applications, you may see a difference in your child/or teacher. Make sure that you stand up for your children, teachers and administrators are not the authority, God is!

Parenting by the Book

2008-07-20
Much wisdom for raising healthy kids/grandkids; shows the need to go back to THE Book and not all of today's pop philosophy. Highly recommended to any parent.

Teach Them Self Respect not Self Esteem!

2008-07-16
Picture respectful, responsible, obedient children who entertain themselves without television or video games, do their own homework, and have impeccable manners. A pie-in-the-sky fantasy? Not so, says family psychologist and bestselling author John Rosemond. Any parent who so desires can grow children who fit that description -- happy, emotionally healthy children who honor their parents and their families with good behavior and do their best in school.

In the 1960s, American parents stopped listening to their elders when it came to child rearing and began listening instead to professional experts. Since then, raising children has become fraught with anxiety, stress, and frustration. The solution, says John, lies in raising children according to biblical principles, the same principles that guided parents successfully for hundreds of years. They worked then, and they still work now!

Through his nationally syndicated newspaper column and eleven books, John has been helping families raise happy, well-behaved children for more than thirty years. In Parenting by The Book, which John describes as both a "mission and a ministry," he brings parents back to the uncomplicated basics. Herein fi nd practical, Bible-based advice that will help you be the parent you want to be, with children who will be, as the Bible promises, "a delight to your soul" (Pro. 29-17). As a bonus, John also promises to make you laugh along the way.

Child abuse 2008-07-15
By reading following quote you can see how distorted and dysfunctional the book is - sick, cruel and pure child abuse:
"With toddlers, there are certainly times when a swift pop or two to
the rear, without a prior conversation or even so much as a warning,
will be appropriate." p.220

By hitting another human being you will completely remove the actual teaching experience - communication!
Put parents who hit children in jail - NO CHILD SHOULD EVER BE HIT!
Parents have no right to hit another human being.

Books of recommendation: Natural Child by Jan Hunt. Attachment parenting by Dr. William Sears.

A breath of fresh air! 2008-07-14
My parents used the traditional methods espoused in this book. I received spankings only for serious infractions such as lying. I can hardly remember those spankings. They may have caused me some tears as a child but certainly did not scar me or make me a "violent person." I always knew my parents loved me very much. As an adult, I had a wonderful relationship with them.
When it came time to bring up my own children, attitudes about childrearing had changed so much that I became confused and ineffectual and most parents I know are in the same boat. They follow every wind of doctrine espoused by childrearing experts or psychologists. Think about it!! Are kids better or worse human beings than they were 50 years ago? The kids who come to my house to visit my teenagers are almost universally emotionally crippled in some way. The rare exceptions (I can count on one hand) have been those raised with traditional values. I think psychology has a lot to answer for. Thanks, John Rosemond, for bringing back some sanity!

Biblically correct 2008-07-07
Sorry that so many other reviewers didn't take time to actually read this book. Or perhaps it's that they are offended by what God says. The Bible says many will turn away from wisdom and listen to others say just what they want to hear. Read the book - and the Bible. Get the facts. (Lost one star because he tends to go on long about some issues I thought he could have taken less time on.)
BTW, I, too, was lovingly disciplined as a child (in the 60s no less!) by kind, caring parents who spanked me when needed (not too often), then followed up with hugs and a good discussion about what I'd done wrong and what I could do to avoid same in the future. I love them and appreciate them for it today. Abuse is not discipline, and discipline is not abuse. Love protects, sometimes by discipline. Fear or rejection leads many parents to abuse their children by letting them run wild. Those children learn only that mom and dad are weak and afraid of them. Children want guidelines and proof that their parents care enough to follow through with discipline if rules are broken. Too-soft parents lead to "ADHD" afflicted chilren with behavioral problems.

WRONG 2008-06-17
The author of this book is horribly wrong. A Quote from his book:

p.216 Rosemond says:
"The usual anti-spanking argument consists of three equally misleading assertions:
1. Spankings are likely to escalate into child abuse.
2. Spankings teach children that it's okay to hit people who upset you.
3. There is always an alternative to spanking.
Not one of these claims is grounded in solid science or even good anecdotal evidence."

Spanking doesn't 'escalate' to child abuse, spanking IS child abuse, and often does go beyond just spanking.

Spanking DOES teach children it is okay to hit people who upset you and that it is how you deal with anger.

There are many many alternatives to spanking. I know because I and MANY other mothers and fathers have never spanked their child. It does NOT need to be done and is a bad decision.

PLEASE do not purchase this book. The author is ignoring YEARS of studies proving him wrong.