Your Defiant Child. Eight Steps to Better Behavior

Customer Reviews

Excellent book and super fast shipping.

2008-09-23
This book is agreat help to our home. We are dealing with a child that has ADHD, ODD and a Mood Disorder.

A well balanced approach

2008-07-27
Russ Barkley has a good sense of how children behave and why, which allows him to develop good strategies for helping children learn how to be compliant. I really appreciate that he first teaches the parents/care providers, to catch the child being good and working on increasing the frequency of those observations. He then has one focus on how to target behaviors that need modification and goes through how to set up a clear system of expectations and consequences. The use of a token system allows a visual for the child to monitor his/her progress. All of us do better if we have something to work for, even a paycheck, so providing a list of incentives/rewards for children struggling to behave is no different.

Parents, teachers, and othe childccare providers will all benefit from learning these techniques in the order that he has presented them.

I recommend this book all the time.

2008-06-19
I have recommended this book umpteen times. (Don't ask me how many "umpteen" is, but it's a lot!) Realistic, understandable, and well explained. The behavior program is based on positive reinforcement, and from the feedback of my clients, it works! One of my favorite prinicples discussed in the book is "catch your child being good". Barkley is one of the giants in our field, and whatever he writes is golden.

Stephanie Moulton Sarkis PhD NCC LMHC
Author, ADHD Expert, Psychotherapist

Excellent resource for parents

2007-10-05
My pediatrician recommended this book when I expressed concerns over power struggles I was having with my daughter. Initially I took the book out of the library - then had to buy it because frankly - I can't do without it now.

Debra Brown: Your Defiant Child

2007-07-26
I have found this book to be very helpful in dealing with one of my clients. It was in excellent shape as promised and I would purchase from this seller again.

EXCELLENT ADVICE

2007-04-04

Every child has "ornery" moments, but more than 1 in 20 American children exhibit behavioral problems that are out of control. For readers struggling with an unyielding or combative child, YOUR DEFIANT CHILD: EIGHT STEPS TO BETTER BEHAVIOR offers the understanding and guidance they need. Drawing on Dr. Russell A. Barkley's many years of work with parents and children, the book clearly explains what causes defiance, when it becomes a problem, and how it can be resolved. The book's comprehensive eight-step program stresses consistency and cooperation, promoting changes through a system of praise, rewards, and mild punishment. Readers learn tools and strategies for establishing clear patterns of discipline, communicating with children on a level they can understand, and reducing family stress overall. Filled with helpful charts, questionnaires, and checklists, YOUR DEFIANT CHILD helps parents get their child's behavior back on track and restore harmony in the home.

Handle your child with love

2005-05-18
I read the book in 2001. It has impressed me ever since. I have several books on this subject. I consider this book is the best.

The book provides you with the principles and methods to handle a very stubborn kid (but not the kid with a mental disorder).
For example, the biggest thing a kid needs is love. But what is love concretely? It is an attention. It is the time that we spend with the kid. But how to spend the time effectively? It is not by controlling him/her. It is by giving him/her the freedom to enjoy the time spent together.

I have not followed exactly the methods provided in the book, but the concept has been very useful for me to deal with my child.

Warning:

2002-12-24
This is a well written book that will probably help if you have a child that is mildly challenging. If you know or suspect your child has oppositional defiant disorder, get professional help.

More of the same

2002-11-20
This book is the same as everything else that Dr. Barkley has written. There is nothing new here. It is all negative. "Your kid is a monster" attitude. Give him drugs and he will be fine. Don't waste your money. I want something more positive and helpful.

It really, really helped

2002-06-25
When my husband got this book we were at our wits' end with our four year old. I was beginning to believe she had no conscience at all. We had a three week wait before we could get in to see the child psychologist. This book helped us understand what was going on, that her behavior wasn't our "fault" but that we were a factor, and that we could actually influence her behavior - which at the time seemed impossible. The process Barkley recommends seemed slow at the time, but looking back, it worked amazingly quickly! We didn't get through all 8 steps; just steps 1-3 made such a difference that we didn't need to. The psychologist we saw, while he hadn't read this book, said it seemed to be very much in line with current clinical practice, and encouraged us to use it. A year and a half later, we do have to go back and make sure we give our child her "special time" (one of the steps) or she slips back into some of her bad habits, but we are actually enjoying being parents now. This is not just a "self-help" type book, though it does give self-tests to help you evaluate your situation. It has a lot of substance, and discusses clinical differences between ADHD, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, and Conduct Disorder in a clear, professional way.