Communication Miracles for Couples. Easy and Effective Tools to Create More Love and Less Conflict

Customer Reviews

Definitely One of Many Have-to-Read Books

2006-05-03
I am a Divorce Mediator in Oklahoma and recommend this book to my clients who are not divorcing, yet have issues conveying their needs or desires. Whether it is help with the home duties or consideration of situations that arise, this helps encourage couples to view each other as partners/friends/lovers. This book tunes couples into more intimacy by connecting emotionally. Doing little things matter most.

A fair supplement, but otherwise lacking.

2002-11-22
I am only halfway through the book, but I'm finding that every chapter I read is very much a rehash of the principles contained in "We Can Work It Out" by Notarius et al. I find it very possible that the author has read that book and simply regurgitated the principles in his book. While I don't find that sort of thing very admirable, this book does serve some sort of purpose. That is, to supplement other works on communicating with your parter and to offer other examples of good communication. While this book was able to give me some new ideas of ways to communicate with my partner, I find the concept of "electric sex" utterly laughable. It's just a little too new-age for me.

Easy read and best advice

2002-09-24
I have read many many books on the subject of marriage and inherent problems. Married 37 years, I find myself in a separation. I chose several books to read to help me and this one was the best. Mr. Robinson very clearly and concisely talks about the acknowledgement, acceptance and appreciation all of us need in life. These tenents and ideas he has on blame and defensiveness hit home. I have only been separated a month but this has really helped me understand our conflicts. Now all I have to do is figure out a way to have my husband read it!...I recommend this to all couples and bought books for both my married and unmarried sons.

LOVED IT!

2002-04-29
This is the the little book that my husband and I turn to when we have a communication problem. We have many, many books on our shelve, but its this one that seems to knock some loving sense back into us. I highly recommend this book to all couples, but especially couples about to enter marriage. We all should have read this book in high school.

Cute

2002-03-24
Easy to read. Reminded me of the "don't sweat the small stuff series".

All couples should read this book!

2008-07-14
I have not even finished reading this book yet, but so far it is amazing. Anyone having trouble communicating with their partner (also can work with family members, co-workers and friends)should pick up this book. I have been racking my brain trying to figure out how to talk to my husband without arguing and the suggestions in this book work!

better then most I've read for sure

2008-01-19
This book was better then most I've read. It seems to give you some very good skills to apply to your marriage/relationship that do work. Yes, marriage takes two...but it does seem to help. I love just the smile tactic. That does work...you may have to force yourself to do it...but it definately works to put your spouse in a good mood when they first walk in the door.

Decent book but....

2007-08-11
but I found myself rolling my eyes at some of the analogies (such as describing why we fight as being because our 'self esteem bank account' is low and we want to make a deposit in it by arguing with a loved one). I did find some helpful hints about ways to diffuse an argument, but I did feel like most of the time the author wants you to 'give in' when arguing because he feels it is better to be loved than be right. I didn't feel like the author really gave any advice on how to handle serious issues where giving in isn't an option. For example, if your spouse is drinking too much and becoming belligerent should you decide that you like being loved more than being right and chose to get over the situation by making a 'deposit' in your spouses self esteem bank account so that they feel better about themselves and are less likely to fight? But to be fair, overall, the book is well written and easy to identify with thanks to the author's many examples, be they personal or from couples he has counseled. One of the best pieces of advice from the book was about calling a time out while arguing during which you spoon or cuddle with each other for five minutes and then resume your argument. Just like the author said in his book, when my husband and I tried this, we found that we no longer wanted to argue after the cuddling. And while the first minute of cuddling was awkward due to the argument, it really was effective in calming both of us down and putting things back in perspective. In my opinion this book is good if you are looking for a way to get over or completely avoid small arguments, but is not very helpful if you are looking to facilitate communication/get past arguments about more major issues.

Excellent!!

2007-08-10
This book is fantastic for both partners of the couple to read!! Easy, quick reading and very insightful!

GREAT book. Hands-on, easy, to-the-point relationship rescue.

2007-05-30
When I purchased this book, I chose it as an impluse buy in addition to another communications book that I thought would be great. Instead, after reading only a couple of pages of this book, I was floored with how quickly this short book targeted common communication problems with couples, and had easy solutions that you could start implementing right away. We have used the techniques in this book and find it very instrumental in saving our relationship. Our communication is much more what we mean to say now, and we have less tension in our commuunications. I highly recommend this book.