Getting Through to the Man You Love. The No Nonsense, No Nagging Guide for Women

Editorial Review

An irresistible message for women

If someone told you that you could have better, more meaningful communication with your partner, hug him without his thinking sex was imminent, get him to become more involved with the kids, or even realize that, unlike the oven, the house isn't self-cleaning, wouldn't you want to know how? Of course you would. Well, Michele Weiner-Davis is about to let you in on her secrets.

Drawing on more than two decades of experience in helping couples make their relationships great and using her own twenty-something year old marriage as a testing ground for her techniques, Weiner-Davis explains:
- women's biggest "beefs" about men
- why blaming, nagging, and talking about feelings don't work
- why action-oriented methods are infinitely more effective
- how to talk so men will listen

Most important, Weiner-Davis shows how every woman can become an expert at getting her man to be more responsive to the things she wants and needs in their relationship. So, if you've been at the end of your relationship rope and you're ready to let go of the line, hang in there . . . solutions are right around the corner.

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Customer Reviews

Some helpful advice

2008-07-10
I read this book cover to cover in 3 nights before going to sleep. I plan to read it through again, and try to use the suggestions that are given. It's not the most brilliantly written self-help book I've ever read, but she does impart a sense of being there for you and genuinely wanting to help. Some of the suggestions are very original, others, I wonder how she thinks one could ever follow through with these and not get into some major conflict with your spouse.
Ms. (Dr.?) Weiner-Davis presents herself as someone I would love to have for my own family therapist- she's very personable and funny. The book may not save my marriage, but I have learned some valuable actions that can be taken to change the unhealthy patterns a relationship can fall into.

One word...Wow!

2006-02-21
Are you bitter because everything you try to discuss with your man never seems to be heard, let alone get through? Then this is he book for you! Michele Weiner-Davis is amazing! Its like she's been there. The ending is the best, though! If your marriage is in trouble because of communication problems, this is a must have! It sure helped me! And I didn't think ANYTHING could save us!

great read

2004-08-11
The author is right and her book is a refreshing read. This is an action book and you can easily use her advice to change some of the things that need changing in your relationships. Interestingly enough, this book is on my shelf right next to Karen Pryor's Don't Shoot the Dog - both are great books on how to shape and change behavior... and they're both well grounded.

Very goal oriented book on making relationships work better

2004-06-19
Let me just say - I loved this book, and have loaned it to some friend who've been very impessed as well. I'm shocked it only has one review so far, and so was inspired to write another.

It's very pragmatic, action-oriented, and goal oriented. I actually took notes on it. Here's a summary of my notes(although you'll definately want the get the book, if just for the examples and short stories alone):

Instead of thinking of things he shouldn't do, think of what he should do.

Your goals should be specific and action oriented, like "hold hands in movies".

Break your goals into mini-goals

If a particular stragety doesn't work, don't do it! Keep your eyes on the cheese.

Do something different strategies:
- do something unexpected
- do a 180
- act as if...
- "easier done than said", i.e. take action

I'm Finally Getting Through to The Man I Love 2000-05-08
I am only one of a lot of women out there but wanted to personally say I love this book.

I call it my "man bible". I literally carry it with me all the time. I don't keep it at home because heaven forbid he would find it. I have now read the book twice and am now going through it again a third time underlining everything that I want to emphasize in my head. That way I figured I could look at these lined phrases in those emergency circumstances.

This wonderful book has really given me new eyes to look through. I will probably memorize it from cover to cover and then read some more. I have already seen some changes! This book is the best thing I have found in a long time.