If The Man You Love Was Abused. A Couple's Guide to Healing

Editorial Review
The scars left on the hearts and souls of childhood abuse survivors run deep; they require time, patience, and support to heal. As your man faces his past, he will have no better support than you, his loving and devoted partner. But where are you to turn for hope and guidance in this difficult time?

If the Man You Love Was Abused is your lifeline. Written with both of your needs in mind and informed by case studies from real patients in her practice, psychologist Dr. Marie Browne combines practical applications with authoritative research to offer you the ultimate guide for getting through this difficult situation. YouÕll learn how to help him get the support he needs, and make sure not to neglect your needs in the process.

You believe in your relationship, and you know your love will prevail over adversity. But for those times when it feels like love isnÕt enough, this supportive, reassuring book is the place to turn.
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Customer Reviews

exceptionally inspiring

2007-03-22
The authors of this book made me aware of how many types of abuse my brothers endured during childhood.They helped explain to me the potential consequences of my brothers' abuse and most importantly,helped give me insight on how to help us mend with many suggestions on understanding the consequences of abuse . The clinical studies mentioned in the book were most helpful as well.
Although I am not a PHD., I have passed this wonderful book on to those I do know. Thank you Dr. Browne and Marlene! Molly Jane

A job well done...

2007-03-21
I have just finished reading this book after hearing the author's on a talk show. I never understood what my husband was going through after having been abused as a boy.What I found most helpful was that though the authors are a Ph.D. and a lawyer, I had no trouble understanding the concepts. In fact, I suspect my husband might have a borderline personality disorder, as I understand it from the first part of the book. Anyway, after reading the book, cover to cover, I have been able to tell my husband that I am here for him, that I will help him, and that there is hope. I told him about the other famous abuse victims in the book, and he found it reassuring. He has agreed to see a counselor to address his rage and fears of abandonment and emptiness. I'm hopeful that with help, he will be able to understand that what was done to him does not have to ruin, his life, or our life together.

Comment to "Patti's" review

2007-03-20
Though "Patti" the reviewer identifies herself as a "counselor," she fails to provide her credentials or experience. While we look forward to "Patti's" book, we think she has deliberately misrepresented ours. "Patti" has misquoted our "message" by cutting and pasting words and using ellipses to connect disparate phrases. "Patti" also neglected to report that pages 1-106 of our book (which she disparages for describing "the many plaguing emotional and physical symptoms trauma survivors present with; as well as a detailed explanation and case examples of "borderlines") are found in Part One, titled, "Defining the Issue, Assessing the Damage." Part Two (pages 107-184) is called, "A Partner in His Healing." And, finally, Part Three (186-239) is called, "The Legacy of Abuse." The remaining 32 pages of our book contain the glossary, references, resources, and index.

We, the authors (Marie H. Browne, R.N., Ph.D. and Marlene M. Browne, Esq.), wrote If the Man You Love was Abused for reflective and concerned couples seeking relationship insights, to identify and deal with lingering abusive childhood experiences. Our book is informed by case studies from real patients, practical applications, and authoritative research offering the reader the ultimate guide for her relationship. Our message: the possibility of transcending his childhood trauma is real and attainable.

Mixed messages

2007-03-20
In brief, I was confused by the messages in this book. As a counselor of survivors of childhood sexual abuse, I would not feel comfortable recommending this book to a significant other of one of my male clients. While the book is informative on various issues, truthful and straightforward, it is not necessarily written for the average layperson (one who does not understand psychological lingo). On page 213, the authors sum up the "important message" of the book as being "your partner was traumatized...he does not become an automatic menace..." This is not the "message" I got from reading pages 1-106 which pour over the many plaguing emotional and physical symptoms trauma survivors present with; as well as a detailed explanation and case examples of "borderlines." Again, while the information may be accurate, the authors' language does not support empowerment theory or a strengths based model - either with survivors of trauma, their significant others or those struggling with mental health issues.