Asperger Syndrome and Long Term Relationships

Customer Reviews

The author is real sweet but she doesn't know much or wright it great!

2006-11-15
With this book had a few pages I really liked but other then that as the author says at the end she wrote this mostly for herself (That's not so great) and it defiantly showed. The little she wrote I liked like the one page on sex and the disorder isn't found anywhere else but almost all the rest of the info is and is delivered elsewhere better. She states she was pretty ignorant before her limited research and I could tell prior to her statement of it and frankly now she may be more informed but she still has along way to go and some of her assumptions which she states as facts are also wrong. But, she is right that a book like hers is well needed and the fact she acted on that is great. The fact that she deals with someone like her husband as well as she does and her commitment to her kids with it and without are also admirable. But, couldn't someone tell her stuff like that 70-75% of the people with this also have ADD/ADDHd? Which IS a fact.Ask the leading guy on the topic who she admires so much Tony Attword. She needs to know the area better herself and needs to do better research on it especially with her job being what it is in life and as a mother with 3 kids and a husband with it.

Well written book

2005-07-25
Well written book by one strong woman. What about a woman like that for me too? I have Aspergers. Ashley Stanford really lays out good arguments about why people with Aspergers can marry and not believe garbage that Aspies should be forced celibates. She said being told you shouldn't marry is like telling Rosa Parks to sit only in the back of the bus. Fact is Aspies just function differently than the normal person and the rules of marriage are altered. People with Aspergers just communicate differently. The best communication is on a phone, text messaging, or talking to your partner in the dark where body language is useless. Body language is the key to understanding the opposite sex, we Aspies just are worse than the average guy at understanding it. Should be required reading for psychiatrists and pyschologists who think Aspies should live lives of forced celibacy. Perhaps I bought the book because I had a female friend in high school named Ashley, and she was gorgeous, too.

Aspie (and all) marriages are works in progress

2004-04-12
In this book a woman tells of the joys and struggles of living with a husband and children who have Asperger Syndrome. She also draws on the experiences of others who have had lived with "Aspie" partners. She honestly describes her own difficulties understanding and translating her husband's reactions into her own more emotionally demonstrative frame of reference.

I got the impression that she would have liked her husband to write more about his perspective on their relationship. He does give some information but he is not an "express your emotions" type of guy.

I have refered several people to this book. It is good for individuals who are learning to appreciate and deal with a family member with Aspergers. At the same time this book has something to say for any couple who despite vast differences, strive to understand each other and make a long term relationship work.

Best AS relationship book I've read 2003-01-13
I have a son with autism and have thought about his future, especially when it comes to close relationships with others. This book is the most clear-cut and informational adult AS book out there. It has a fun tone to it and is easy to read. It makes the diagnostic criteria understandable. This book will be beneficial for spouses to read, as well as other close relationships--parents, business partners, siblings, friends. I highly recommend this book, not only to adults, but also parents who are anticipating the future with their AS and ASD children.

It's Got the Goods 2008-05-25
On the verge of likely being diagnosed with AS, at age 58, I sent away for a half-dozen books on Asperger's from Amazon. This book, written by a N/T with an Aspie marriage partner, resonates with me best so far in my book quest to gain needed validation I'm okay and better understand my often short-lived relationships. While each book I've gleaned or finished has its strengths -- "Pretending to be Normal" offering a sometimes confusing and painful but vivid and earnest first-hand account; "Aspergers in Love" digesting sometimes revealing, sometimes sketchy results from interviewing 41 adults, mostly men, with AS; and "The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome" with its definitive, in-depth knowledge -- Ashley Stanford's book I felt cut right to the chase. It's very straightforward, intelligent, illuminating and compassionate -- offering a bulleted list of traits in the first few pages, along with a summary and example of the various diagnostic criteria used around the world. While aimed at the N/T partner to better cope and appreciate an Aspy partner's often alternate-universe ways, it doubles as a heartfelt revelation and validation for anyone with Asperger's who's seeking more understanding and workable relationships -- and, for that matter, for anyone who knows an Aspie or two (diagnosed or likely) and wants to better appreciate and grok their rarefied realities.

From her introduction: I believe that someday we will wake up as a civilization and realize that the Aspie traits that now confuse us are part of the core of human progress."

Wow 2008-05-21
I got this book a few days ago and I'm half-way through it. I've already gained a MUCH better understanding of him and the problems in our relationship. What's more, this book frequently gives real-life solutions that have worked for other couples dealing with problems. I'd recommend this book to anyone whose partner has a diagnosis of AS.

Perfect for understanding adults with Asperger Syndrome 2007-11-11

I am a therapist, but found that most of the literature about Asperger Syndrome was geared toward children. There are thousands of adults who have been wondering all their lives why they are so different. This book will help those with Asperger and those who love them understand what this is all about much better.

Great Asperger Marriage book 2007-02-11
This book is outstanding. Anyone living with someone with Aspergers needs to read this book. I am sure this book will help to save many marriages.

Best AS Relationship book I've read 2007-01-03
I read this book 4 years ago, when I was in a very desperate search for information to save my marriage. Ashley Sanford gave me a lot of hope, where other books on the subject offered little. This book made a big difference in my approach to issues in my relationship and I highly recommend it to anyone in a relationship with a partner on the spectrum.