Editorial Review
For partners seeking harmony, how we express ourselves is as important as what we say. This CD helps us figure out which words and actions our spouse interprets as loving and affirming, and which ones are indifferent and demeaning.Click here for the Study Guide for Spouse and Group Discussion
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Customer Reviews
A Must For Every Marriage 
2008-07-03
My husband and I read this book with several other couples during a marriage enrichment class. It helped us tremendously and we didn't even think we had any communication issues! I have recommended this book to dozens of people, and they all say what a positive impact it has on their relationships. It's definitely a must read for anyone interested in learning how to truly communicate with and express the right "love language" to their spouse.
mixed blessing/torture 
2008-07-02
I was introduced to this book by a woman I was dating. Had I know how successful the book would have eventually been for her I would have left at that moment. She was going through a divorce, and now believes this book saved her marriage.
Either way, I finished reading the book as a single man. It did teach me a great number of things that were helpful to me. Granted a number of things in the book are semi common-sense, but it offered a different take on many every day things most people overlook these days.
The things I learned I have applied in everyday life. The few successful relationships I've had since reading this book have been absolutely amazing. The vast majority of relationships I've had since reading this book have however have ended in disaster. Most women I have dated or even had a connection with have, for the most part, shown displeasure or, in a few cases, disgust at my knowledge of my emotions and "love languages".
I do believe that one day the things I have learned may make a marriage great for me. But, for now, as a twenty-something single man it's just wreaking havoc on my love life.
I would recommend, and do, the book to anyone who is married or in a long-term commited relationship. To those of you like me however, that just aren't at the point in life where settling down is a top priority, I'd advise avoiding this book entirely.
The idiots Guide To: Not offending women 
2008-06-24
My husband and I both read this book in attempts to possibly understand each other better and to have a more "fairy-tale like" relationship. My hope was to read the mens edition and have it make more sense than the emotional ramblings of womens self-help books.
This wasn't any better, the emotional concepts were just written out differently and in lengthy detail as if feelings were a foreign concept to men and that all women rely on emotions as their sole means of communication. It was almost like reading an idiots guide to not being offensive to women. Not every woman is the same, and not all men are the same. There are more than 5 types of people, so five general love languages probably helps some of that group but not all.
The concept of a "love language" is nice but at the end of the day its not really that strange of a concept to imagine your mate probably has specific desires and needs that should be met. This book might be helpful if you luck out and your partner just happens to be among the 5 listed or even a combination of them.
GREAT Learning! 2008-06-18
This book has been a great help in understanding my children's love languages and just people in general around me. I use it at work and with friends. It is a great help!
IS LOVE REALLY A CHOICE? 2008-06-18
The concept that love is a choice we make has been batted back and forth for many years. I remember the first time I heard that, in The Road Less Travelled, and it made sense. But what about chemistry? Some would argue that love is an indefinable connection between two people, and that it cannot be manufactured. Regardless of whichever philosphy you subscribe to, this book can be quite helpful in giving suggestions on enriching a marriage or a close relationship. It reminds me of the book How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You. You have to learn his love language, that is, is he a feelings person, an audio person or is he visual. Then you speak to him in that language. All of this is good, but it seems to me like it's a lot of hard work. If you want to find out how to truly make your spouse or significant other happy, try The Sensuous Couple's (Flip Over) Guide to Seismic Oral Sex. One side tells you how to give the best fellatio your partner has ever had. Then, flip the book over and it tells you how to give your partner the best cunnilingus possible. Don't tell me that won't drastically improve a relationship! Buy it with this book, and you'll be hitting the relationship lotto.
Reasonable concept, meh execution. 
2008-07-23
Talk about something running out of steam. Was this guy being paid by the word? There was some incredibly repetitive stuff, and somehow it got moreso as it went along. I also object to the frequent Bible references. Cite some other things. Sure, even people who do not share the Christian faith might agree that Jesus was a great teacher. However, he's not the only teacher. The only footnotes throughout were to offer chapter and verse.
So, okay, there's decent ideas here. They could have been delivered more concisely. Additionally, why include a chapter about the five love languages and children? There's a whole additional book dedicated to that topic that the author is happy to sell. Not everyone is interested.
Yes, I'll find a way to adapt a few applicable things I've learned in my reading. One wants an investment of time to be worthy. I'd have felt the read was a more rewarding experience had I the meat to read, not filler, and would have been done reading it and onward to something else enriching. Or spending the time putting some of these ideas to use.
The questionaire at the end, useless in Kindle format. Miniscule text in low-contrast faded text. It cannot be read at all.
Overall, a high price to have paid for something that should have merely been a Readers Digest article. The book editor did not earn the paycheck.
Can save your marriage!!! 2008-07-23
I could have saved myself much heart ache and pain if I had read this book 20 years ago. I could have spaired myself the pain I caused my wife by becoming withdrawn and angery by her lack of attention towards me. If you truely desire to save your marriage, you must read this book. It will work miracles if you and your spouse will take a few minutes each evening and read it together. If they are unwilling, then read it yourself. It can still save your marriage if just one of you is willing to read and understand it.
YOU'VE GOT TO GET A MATE FIRST! 2008-07-18
I loved this book because it taught me so much about how to understand and communicate with my significant other in his own language. I would never have been able to identify it on my own, much less know how to respond even if I could identify it. I have given the book to several other couples who have put it to good use. Of course, you have to have a significant other before you can put these principles into practice. Want to know how I found my lover? I bought Baby Boomer Bachelorette: How to Have Sex at Least Once More Before You Die and went into action. Even though I am well over 50, it only took me six months to find and become engaged to my fiance. We are so happy and, if you want to feel the same way, buy both these books.
Everyone needs to LEARN how to love 2008-07-14
For those who are clueless, ,which includes just about everyone, this book does show that our differences need not thwart our caring for one another. It is carefully researched and presented, and it is helpful if one pays attention!!
Worth the read 2008-07-14
Worth doing the full read & then understanding the score that your spouse ends up with.
