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This book applies to all relationships!

2002-08-29
Dr. Broder's book is more than 'interesting'. It pulls you in and makes you take a deep look at any troubling relationship. Although the focus is on love relationships; marriages and romances, the assessment and analysis can also be applied to friendships and work related discontent. Dr. Broder is always optimistic and has a 'can do' attitude whether you choose to stay or to leave.

He does not let you 'beg' the question, but elicits what to keep in mind when you are not yet ready to make the decision to stay or go! Either way there is 'work' to do: affirmations, visualizations, note taking and checklists.

The reader is invited to read this text cover to cover or to go to the chapters that apply today, once you have completed the self-assessment. "Can Your Relationship be Saved?" is also a reference book to go back to time and time again to review just how far you've progressed.

Fixing It 2002-06-24
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> One of the latest self-help series is aimed at clients who are experiencing troubled relationships. The work is by Dr. Michael Broder, a highly experienced and visible (radio, TV) marital and relationship therapist who practices in Philadelphia (Pennsylvania not Mississippi). The title "Can Your Relationship Be Saved? How to know whether to Stay or Go" describes the content well which systematically focuses on first assessing the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship, then explores the pain of staying vs. the pain of leaving, then the consequences of either decision.
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avoidance/avoidance, double approach/avoidance etc. each of which leads to indecision and unhappiness and instability in the relationship. Dr. Broder helps chart pathways through the ambivalence and provides guidance in deciding whether to stay in the relationship or to leave. He weaves in meaningful case examples illustrating problems, insights and solutions based on his extensive experience.

Dr. Broder offers a 50 item true/false test to help readers evaluate their relationship and aid in determining whether their relationship can be saved. He raises interesting and critical questions the answers to which he provides in detail and with supporting examples. For those of us who are more scientifically inclined, I wish that he had provided statistical analyses for this instrument as well. Their absence in no way diminished the value of the instrument or its use in clarifying the thinking of the person seeking help. The remaining Chapters (6 & 7) guide the reader through the healing process related to either decision: yes, the relationship can be saved or conversely how to adjust to the single life. This work, as with others in the series offers an inexpensive, meaningful and helpful supplement to ongoing psychotherapy or as a guide to those who are merely in the contemplative stage. It may also serve as a gentle reminder to the busy therapist regarding questions needing asking and issues to be addressed.
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A no-nonsense book about when a relationship needs to end 2002-06-03
Written by an experienced psychologist, media personality and popular speaker Michael S. Broder, Can Your Relationship Be Saved? is a no-nonsense book about when a relationship needs to end, and when it is capable of weathering trouble with perseverance, balance, and possible professional help. Specifically intended for the friends and family of those in troubled relationships, as well as people who don't understand why their relationship is in such strife, Can Your Relationship Be Saved? is a thankfully direct and steady take and complicated human situations recommended for the non-specialist general reader concerned with salvaging and strengthening their relationships, friendships, and familial bonds.

A "Must" Read 2002-05-24
Finally, a book that addresses the complexities of today's relationships in a straightforward style. There's a real sense of caring in Dr. Broder's writing which immediately put me at ease. A comprehensive self-assessment inventory and evaluation in Chapter 2 gets you on track and ready to "work." Often times, authors of issue-oriented books wind up influencing readers' decisions. But not here. Dr. Broder clearly encourages readers to clarify their specific issues and make choices that are right for them. I like this approach - it teaches and empowers. For people serious about understanding both successful and unsuccessful relationships, this is the only book you'll ever need.